Just wondering if other guys find the same thing. First I am not a must get a BJ kind of guy so that may cause some of what I am seeing. Since I started taking ED medication I usually get very firm just while kissing, and cuddling the provider at the very start of the session. I have noticed that a several ladies are skipping or abbreviating the BJ since I am fully erect enough for the cover already. Do any others who take ED pills notice the same thing? Do you find a bunch of providers only give a BJ long enough to get your hard enough?
I don't have problems getting hard either. I research well before seeing any lady and have been fortunate. None of them have wanted to abbreviate anything. Most I have had to pull up so we could get to the main event.
A good provider will appreciate that, and if she doesn't, well, find a good one.
I agree that if I want something I ask for it. I was just observing that in an a more just going with the flow experience that the amount of BJ time is greatly decreased when I am already hard before the start. Sometimes I like the fantasy of just letting things happen.
Well said. I have a few years to go b4 joining this board, but I found the discussion. I do find some, but not all, abbreviate, but I nicely instruct em to stick it back in til I decide to move to vaginal.
Yeah. I'm pretty new at this, but I take Cialis, and the three providers I've seen have started with a BJ, but only kept it up for a couple of minutes. I read of providers giving sloppy, slurpy BJ's for 10, 15, 20 minutes, working all kinds of magic with their hands, tongues, throats, etc., and wish I could get some of that. Have I just been seeing the wrong providers? The rest of the experiences have been great, but, since I'm hard and erect almost from the get-go, it seems like I get shorted on the BJ.
Any advice?
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Let them know what you want. If you want a longer bj ask for it. There are lot's of ways to do that if you don't want to seem like your coming on too strong. That can ruin it sometimes. The do's and don'ts discussion at the beginning of a session with a provider you are seeing for the first time would be a good opportunity to bring up the type of bj your looking for. You could even mention that her reviews talk about her "great bj" ( if they indeed do) and that you can't wait to experience it.
Check the reviews. See if the bj you want is something the provider did with the reviewers. PM the reviewers and ask about their experience. I have never experienced what you describe. Also Performance scores don't tell the whole story (you need to read the juicy details) but a lot of 5's and 6's would be a clue the lady doesn't provide a good session. A good bbbj is a must for a good session as far as I'm concerned.
I haven't run into the issue you have described as of yet. And if a gal did pull off after a couple of minutes, and I am looking for her to continue, simply tell her to "not stop what she is doing".
Many gals have a script they follow. And perhaps (assuming you're not doing the proper research...like reading her reviews) she is just moving in the same timeframes she does with every guy.
But if all you want is a BJ for the duration...just tell her. Many gals would be quite accomodating with that request. Don't be shy...this is ALL about you..and only you!
I saw one gal that upon my arrival (and based on her reviews where it was noted repeatedly of her "oral" skills) I asked her to blow me for nearly the entire two hours, getting me to the edge and then not let me blow until the end of the session. Needless to say her skills are awfully good, and I was quite ready to cum numerous times...but she did as I asked and didn't let me till the very end of a two hour suckathon!
Enjoy!
I have not had that experience. I do use ED meds. But even before it became necessary for me to use them I would an erection once the kissing, fondling, etc. started. The meds didn't cause that in my case. All the ladies I have seen continue the bj until I ask them to stop so I won't orgasm before I want to or to completion if that's what I decide to do. I agree with a previous poster if you want more, let them know. It seems to me it should be up to you when the cover goes on.
most gals work me over with their oral skills to the point if I want to fuck I need to stop em' (i'm a one pop guy). sounds like they are your repeat girls who know the drill and are into a routine of BJ and slide it in. like the others said, let em know what you want and they will accommodate. my problem with ED med is keeping it hard after the oral. oh well, all part of the program.
due to spinal injury. I can get hard without it but will fade if the stimulation slows. Pretty natural actually. If I see a FBSM provider & intercourse in not on the menu, no need for V. If intercourse is, then I take it. I am taking less than 25 mg but that's enough for me.
I find I get somewhat hard from visuals & mental anticitation or a bit of body to body touching. If I DATY or suck her tits, it'll fade & she easilly brings me back to firmness with a BJ.
Some providers... possibly more jaded... want to hurry a guy along. A good provider will let you lead with what ever you want to do.
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If the lady does not like giving BJ's, then what you describe is typical. Anything to get the BJ overw with.
There are some ladies I know that love giving BJ's. They practically make love to the little guy. They are happy to continue as long as I like. The one exception is if the lady gets really turned on by giving BJ's. Then there comes a point in time when she is so ready that she can't stop herself from hopping on top.